We all have so many dreams and plans for our lives. But as we know it life is full of disappointments that we either give up on those dreams or are unable to make the progress we desire in our career or our personal lives. It is only normal to feel discouraged when we are faced with challenges. Challenges are a normal part of life even the best and top performers are met with challenges.
Maintaining a peace of mind, and remaining motivated is not always as easy as it may sound. There are many times when we may find that we have not utilized our time in the right way and also that we are not performing at our best. If you have notice this happening to you its time to consider getting the proper guidance and support from a Professional Personal Development Coach.
Many life coaches have years of experience in connecting with people and helping them live their lives to their heart’s desire. I help my clients get there, gain the clarity they need when they have big dreams and aspirations for themselves. My main focus is based on achieving self-awareness, reflecting on your life and what you desire in life. We determine your priorities and the necessities of life, you will find that with my help you will be able to strike a perfect balance.
Life balance is a key component to a good life, without proper life balance, you may not be able to achieve your goals and live up to your full potential. I see clients everyday and I can tell you that a lot of them are not even aware of the kind of potential they possess. It’s up to me to help them uncover their strengths and weaknesses which will enable them to keep persevering until they see themselves for who they truly are. An individual with the potential to accomplish great things.
A personal development coach will tap into your potential. The coach will use proven strategies and techniques to help fill the person with motivation, zeal, inspiration and positivity. When people are motivated they are able to work toward achieving their desired goals. They will do all that they can and put in as much effort as possible to reach there. A life coach will help you have unbiased input. It is true that family and friends can give you support, but they may not give you the unbiased feedback the way a coach will be able to do. Many times those close to you may hide your mistakes because they don’t want to hurt you or make you feel miserable, but in reality they are not really helping you. A coach will be honest and bring everything to the surface.
A coach also makes you take responsibility for your actions and commitments. With the help of a life coach you tend to be more accountable. The coach is there to help you grow, help you become more disciplined and ensure that you take your actions and commitments more seriously. Coaches help you shift the focus to yourself and give yourself some much needed attention. If for some reason you think you’re confused and depressed, please make use of a life coach. You will find yourself to be well focused and disciplined.
The other thing that a coach will do is to make you more responsible for your actions and commitments. With the help of a life coach, you tend to be more accountable. The coach will also help you grow. A life coach will also make you become more disciplined and ensure you take your actions and commitments more seriously. The coach will also help you to shift the focus to yourself and give yourself the much-needed attention. If you think that you are confused and depressed, make use of a life coach. You will find yourself well focused and disciplined.
Do you struggle setting boundaries in your relationship? Well, you’re not alone! In fact many people do struggle with setting boundaries and feel guilty about it. The thing is that boundaries are crucial and the foundation of healthy relationships and helps couple create a strong sense of self-worth. According to mental health professionals and self-help gurus
Boundaries Serve Two Main Functions:
Boundaries tell others how you want to be treated (what’s okay and what’s not okay). Boundaries protect you from being mistreated.
Boundaries create a healthy separation (physical and emotional) between you and others. Boundaries allow you to have your own personal space and privacy, your own feelings, thoughts, needs, and ideas. They allow you to be yourself rather than an extension of someone else or who someone else wants you to be.
Why Do Some People Have Problems Setting Boundaries?
For some setting boundaries can seem really difficult perhaps they didn’t grow up with clear and consistent boundaries or expectations (this often happens in enmeshed, alcoholic, or otherwise dysfunctional families), they probably don’t come naturally to them. They may feel guilty or unjustified in asking for what they want or need.
However, they can untwist their negative beliefs about boundaries and learn to set them without feeling guilty.
These five tips can help you get started.
5 Tips For Setting Boundaries:
Be clear about what you want – When setting a boundary, you need to be really specific about what you want and why it is important to you. This helps you to communicate your needs clearly and stay the firm when it gets tough. Make sure when preparing to set a difficult boundary, it maybe helpful to write down exactly what you want and why.
Be direct and don’t apologize for your needs – When communicating your boundaries, to others you may find it most effective to be direct and clear. If you couch your boundary in excessive explanations, justifications, or apologies, you water down your message. Keep it simple and remember you are well within your right to ask for what you want/need – you don’t need to justify it with a “good” reason.
Expect resistance and don’t let it deter you – When you start setting boundaries, some people will respond poorly. This is common – they’re usually the people who have been benefiting from your lack of boundaries, so they don’t want you to change. Some people may just need time to adjust to your new behavior. While others will use anger to try to manipulate and coerce you away from setting boundaries. Stand your ground! You aren’t responsible for how others react to your boundaries. You don’t have to make them feel better or take responsibility for the consequences of their actions. You are only responsible for your own feelings and actions.
Setting boundaries is an on-going process – If you’re a parent, you know that you have to repeatedly set rules (a form of boundaries) and tell your kids what you expect from them. Setting boundaries with adults is the same. We need to continuously set boundaries; we can’t just set a boundary and be done with it. You may need to set the same boundary repeatedly with the same person. And as your needs change, you’ll need to set different boundaries.
Boundaries are for your own wellbeing, not to control others – Boundaries should never be an attempt to control or punish others. They’re actually a form of self-care – something you do for your own wellbeing (although others benefit as well). Boundaries protect you from being taken advantage of, overcommitting, overworking, feeling overwhelmed, and physical and emotional abuse or harm. Of course, we all want people to respect our boundaries, but we have to accept that we can’t make them. We should set boundaries as a statement of who we are and what we need. Your boundaries say, “I matter. My feelings matter. My ideas matter. My health matters. My dreams matter. My needs matter.” And if others won’t treat you well, you have options. You can emotionally detach, physically distance yourself. or end the relationship. Boundaries are about doing what’s right for you, not about forcing others to do what you want.
Today my blog post is on Rewiring the Brain. I personally believe that our mindset is everything, it can make you or break you. But how great it will be if we can master our own mindset and stop being a prisoner of our thoughts and feelings. Yesterday I came across a very interesting researched based article about Neuroplasticity and Rewiring the Brain. What rewiring the brain means is that we can literally rewire our brains for success in every aspect of our lives.
“Neuroplasticity provides us with a brain that can adapt not only to changes inflicted by damage, but allows adaptation to any and all experiences and changes we may encounter” Seems great right? You see our brain is constantly adapting and rewiring itself, and your thoughts and behavior influences this process. Meaning that if we engage in certain patterns of thoughts and behaviors and they are being repeated enough, it makes a strong connection, which is also known as a neural pathway, which is then created.
Every time you think, feel or do anything, billions of roads and pathways light up each time. Some of the roads are well traveled, these are your habits, your way of thinking, feelings and doing. Believe it or not, every time you think in a certain way, practice a particular task, or feel a specific emotion, you are actively strengthening this road, and it becomes easier for your brain to travel this pathway when similar situations or circumstances are encountered in the future. Basically you become what you think.
The good news is that we all have the ability to learn new ways of thinking and feeling, by changing and rewiring our brains. If you have ever changed a bad habit or thought about something differently, you have carved a new pathway in your brain, you were experiencing neuroplasticity firsthand. Here is how you can achieve this on your own or with the help of a Mindset Coach: with repeated and direct attention towards the desired change you want to make, you can effectively rewire your brain to move forward and live a healthy, abundant life, making your mind work for you.
MINDSET IS EVERYTHING
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