Trauma Bonding

What is Trauma Bonding?

Trauma bonding means that you are emotionally or psychologically attached to someone who abuses you. If you have trauma bonding, you feel like you can’t leave this relationship or your entire life will be destroyed.

The reason why anyone would keep going back to a toxic relationship with a narcissist is because of Narcissistic trauma bonding. Under normal circumstances one might be able to walk away from our abuser an look for help elsewhere unfortunately the conditions that create trauma bonding are not normal at all.

With “Narcissistic Trauma Bonding,” you are initially showered with intense love and approval. It is like a  fantasy come true. Then gradually the ratio of positive to negative events shifts—often so subtly that you cannot say exactly when this happened. You find yourself in fights with someone you desperately love who claims that everything bad that is happening is all your fault.

Set Yourself Free

Unless you walk out immediately and never look back, you are well on your way to becoming this person’s psychic prisoner. You will find yourself “Trauma Bonded” to someone who is destroying you. This is like your own personal drug addiction crisis. You are now addicted to this person’s approval and only desire their love and no one else’s. You know you should stop, but you do not have the willpower to do so on your own.

My advice would be is leave this toxic narcissistic relationship, go no contact and seek help and start the healing process.

Any questions queries or concerns please feel free to leave a comment below would love to hear your thoughts.


Published by Coach Amy

BS, Psychology graduate, Certified NLP Master Practitioner, Certified Life Coach, training in Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) Certified Confidence Life Coach,

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: